The male chastity phenomenon, which first began decades ago in England, has now become a thriving market. Hundreds of models are made by dozens of manufacturers worldwide. Why had John begun to wear a locked, stainless steel chastity device around his genitals? “There’s no way I can get to myself,” he admits. As a result, John’s sexual activities are controlled by the major lady in his life (who is not his wife!): the woman who keeps his key.
“Male chastity is not just for celibates. I researched the topic and interacted with several chaste males before and after writing my book about submissive men. And learned these devices are increasingly being worn by oversexed males, usually submissive, who think they should “lock it away” for their own good. Such men with a frequent need to orgasm find male chastity initially challenging, yet ultimately satisfying.
Are you here for the first time wondering why a man would ever lock up his prized anatomical possession? It's an understandable question. Maybe you've heard the terminology and searched it out, perhaps arriving here is just largely down to chance, whatever the reason, yes it's a thing and there is a surprising amount of people exploring it!
Curiosity is a powerful thing. When a seed starts to develop in the mind, sooner or later that itch needs scratched. Exposure to the mere concept of chastity and the various dynamics that run hand in hand with it will for many, start them on a journey, eventually ending in trying on a chastity cage.
When that day arrives, it may be a sensation overload, mentally and physically, it has the potential to be transformative experience. But what exactly takes people from curiosity to keeping it on. What is the motivation and benefit of wearing a chastity device?
For those in a relationship it's often about creating a higher level of devotion to your partner. The powerful concoction of chemicals in your head will take you from being nonchalant to devoted chaste partner. This particular effect can be a great source of bonding in a relationship, strengthening a deeper bond with your partner who is now also your keyholder.
Then there are those who self lock. Often for the excitement or even a sense of wanting to push themselves. Testing how long they can last through iron will before letting themselves out. Sometimes even just to study what happens when they are locked up. How the feel, what they think.. all in the name of science right? Either way we couldn't be happier for anyone who gives it a shot.
Some will even use it to avoid sexual distractions. Too much masterbation? Then lock it up, force yourself to dial it down for a while. Whatever your reason we'd recommend trying it at least once to see what all the fuss is about.
Even more submissive men would choose chastity if they could only find willing keyholders. John’s wife knows he’s in chastity and how another woman holds his key, but believes her husband’s behavior to be merely juvenile. This wife has little patience for exploring her spouse’s sexuality, yet doesn’t want to disrupt their marriage, family, or comfortable lifestyle.
So what does the keyholder get out of this unconventional relationship? The keyholder’s mantra is, “Control the orgasm and you control the man.” Wearing male chastity devices was initially embraced by dominant women to ensure a man’s fidelity, make him more compliant, eager to do her bidding. But these days, men are also locking themselves up to thwart frequent masturbation!
How can you tell whether a guy is wearing a chastity belt without undressing him?
His jeans are way too baggy, but he’s not hiding a weapon. Maybe those oversized chinos with the waist pleats are sign that he’s stuck in the eighties. Or he could be wearing a chastity belt! Consider there have been several million units sold. And these stainless steel, silicone, or polycarbonate plastic devices are trending way more than those sloppy trousers.
He’s edgy and seems to have ants in his pants. A guy who’s bound down there may be physically uncomfortable. Though all male chastity devices perform the same function, each model is different. Finding the right style and fit can be daunting. They’re often either too tight or too loose. As they can’t be tried on in sex shops for sanitary reasons, these items are mainly sold online…making that perfect fit fairly elusive. Because men often order the wrong ring size, savvy subs first buy an inexpensive set of plastic sizing rings (which come in different circumferences) before ordering a specially sized, nonreturnable item for several hundred dollars.
He’s not a hug bug. Men who wear chastity devices usually pull away with their pelvises (but not their torsos) when you give them a friendly hug. They wonder whether women can “feel something down there.” As most chastity models are quite solid and are secured by a sizable metal lock, theirs is a realistic concern. But these guys are actually satisfied by having a subversive secret that could be accidentally and easily detected.
He needs his privacy in the men’s room. This fellow invariably makes a beeline for enclosed stalls and never uses the urinals. He’s well aware how a wayward glance from a nearby officemate would wreak havoc with his reputation.
His trousers are spot-on. If you’ve occasionally noticed a small spot on the front of his pants, it might not be from a sweating Slurpee cup. It could be where fluid has leaked from the urinator hole in his chastity device. Male chastity belts may put a kibosh on orgasms, but not the fluid that can dribble out when he becomes aroused.
He’s practically champing at the bit. This guy always seems overly eager to see his lady because…she’s his keyholder! Often highly sexed or a habitual masturbator, he’s on edge about whether or not she’ll unlock him and possibly allow him to orgasm. It’s not the promise of a release that drives him wild, but the uncertainty. Begging for an orgasm is a major turn-on for submissive men in active chastity.
He’s putty in her hands. Keyholders like to play games with men in chastity - not mind games, but child-like games, such as games of chance. The winner gets to have a release, or to deny one. Men who’ve caged their genitals crave willful women who relish having control over when their guy can orgasm. Ceding power to a strong woman not only excites the submissive male but keeps him coming back for more.
His performance has improved recently. Many men maintain that being in chastity gives them increased energy and focus, helps them function at a higher level, and curbs the compulsion to masturbate several times a day. This holds true even if chastity is self-imposed.
Although keyholders can crow about how their chaste male is made to “suffer for them”, for most submissive men, being in forced chastity is preferable to penetrating a woman. And it’s a means to end their obsessive masturbation.